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Relationship Problem: Trust

Trust is an essential part of a relationship. Are there certain behaviors that are causing you to not trust your partner, or do you have unresolved issues that are hindering you from trusting others?

Problem-solving strategies: You and your partner can develop trust in each other by following these tips, suggested by Fay.

• Be consistent.
• Be on time.
• Do what you say you will do.
• Don’t lie — not even little white lies, to your partner or to others.
• Be fair, even in an argument.
• Be sensitive to the other’s feelings. You can still disagree but don’t discount how your partner is feeling.
• Call when you say you will.
• Call to say you’ll be home late.
• Carry your fair share of the workload.
• Don’t overreact when things go wrong.
• Never say things you can’t take back.
• Don’t dig up old wounds.
• Respect your partner’s boundaries.
• Don’t be jealous.
• Be a good listener.

Although relationships have their ups and downs, there are things you can both do that may well minimize marriage problems, if not help avoid them altogether, says psychologist Karen Sherman. Be realistic. Thinking your mate will meet all your needs — and will be able to figure them out without your asking — is a Hollywood fantasy. “Ask for what you need directly,” Karen Sherman says.

Use humor — learn to let things go and enjoy one another more. And be willing to work on your relationship and to truly look at what needs to be done. Don’t think that it will be better with someone else; the same problems you have in this relationship because of lack of skills will still exist.

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